Thursday, 17 September 2009

Hanging in the balance

is where I am in my romantic life right now,

(scales belonged to my Granny)

and I may as well share it because you guys, well gals really, have followed me on my journey, since I chose to air my dirty laundry to the world at large .... so to speak!!!

so to keep it short, I met a man, a nice man, a man I like, a man who treats me well, a man who I feel I am on the same page with, maybe even several pages of the same book, but it is early days and is very, very casual you know, no introducing to children or family or any of that carry on.... and hey it may not go anywhere.....but its fun....



and then there is Babes, who as some of you so accurately said, realised the grass was not greener, ditched his um 'friend' when he found out I had a 'friend' and would like me back, hence the roses, flowers, chocolate etc

and its hard, because there is good history, a Princess who would like her Mummy and Daddy back together, and of course I still have strong emotional ties to Babes and that whole nuclear family unit.....

but.....there is also bad history, a history of repeated infidelity.

hanging in the balance - I am sitting back and doing nothing, enjoying the moment and what will be will be!!!

do not worry my friends......

Take care
Rachaelxo

27 comments:

Katrina Chambers said...

Hey Rachael, I am happy you are enjoying things at the moment - you deserve to be happy, and Princess deserves to see you happy! xx

Natasha Burns said...

Oh what a dilemma Rachael. I hope you choose what is best for YOU. You deserve the best.

Should I give you the Dr Phil quote? (sad huh, I know this quote by heart, lol!) "The best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour" Hmmmmmmm really tough for you with all your history.

Do whatever is right and works for you. I'm sure we'll all be thinking of you and hope it all works out, whichever way you go.

Alison Gibbs said...

Hi Rachael, Enjoy life as it is now and it will all fall into place.
Personally I couldn't deal with the 'bad history' - maybe once but not repeated.
You are a wonderful person and deserve the best in life. So long as you are happy then The princess will be happy.
Alison

Amy said...

I think you're doing the right thing Rachael, take some time to have a breather for you and your daughter, no need to rush but I'm glad you met someone nice, that's awesome and uh a leopard doesn't change it's spots.

A Bite of Country Cupcakes said...

Oh a hard place to be in But sort of Liberating and exciting all rolled into one.
Thinking of you and reading along as it all happens....Take Care
Tread cautiously!

Kerryanne English said...

You know Rachael, out of every bad situation comes a good one and it is obvious how much you have grown this year. Look at all the wonderful things you have done just for YOU. It sounds like you have re-discovered yourself and I'm glad you are enjoying the moment.
Hugs ~ Kerryanne

LiLi M. said...

Oh Rachel I wish I could advise you, but I think you already made a wise decision; just enjoying the moment. It's good that you realize that your and the Princess' interest might be a little different. Take care love, it's just like Natasha said: we'll all be thinking of you! Sending positive vibes your way, maybe you should just enjoy them and don't let your rush into decisions!

Lori said...

of course we can't tell you what to do...but i have to agree with Natasha...that kind of behavior rarely ever changes...but you have to do what YOU think is best for you and your princess...

Bunny Rose Cottage said...

Oh Rachael, Iam so sorry. But I TRULY agree with Natasha. I went through it with my ex. I gave him sooo many chances and the infidelity never stopped. I hate the thought of you being hurt. But I knwo you must do what is right for you. Have fun and be happy Rachael, enjoy this new found friend :) That would be my best advice, considering my new found friend was my wonderful, loving, supportive Chad....
I love you sweet friend,
Amy

Dolly said...

Oh Rachael honey I am glad you found a man who makes you happy!
Live in the moment and it will all fall into place! There is no hurry to make any decisions......

Know that whatever happens your princess will be happy if momma is happy!

Your in my thoughts sweetpea!
Hugz,
Dolly

Melony at Whimsy Daisy! said...

I pray God gives you the wisdom to do what is best for your family. In the meantime...flowers and chocolates....yum!

Connie said...

Natasha is right, sugar! Just keep that in mind. Unless he wants to get some counseling and stop his "bad" behavior. Caution and care, chickee, caution and care.
xoxo,
Connie

Andrea Singarella said...

I hope everything falls into place for you, Rachael. Why can't life be black and white.? It never is so easy, is it?
You take care of yourself and follow your heart.
xo andrea

Jerusalem said...

praying that you can see the bit of light at the end of the rainbow that you should step into! go slow and take your time. your heart and future are WELL worth it!

Pink Slippers said...

Sometimes that is the perfect place to be...just waiting and doing nothing.
Wendy

Heather ~Pretty Petals said...

Rachael, you sure have had a rough few months. I am glad you met someone to make you smile. :) I know you will find the right decision for you.

Hugs! xo Heather

Little Lovables said...

"The best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour"-dr. pill (yep, PILL)

This is worth repeating, my dear!! Though I do not know your history, I hope it works out and that you take it slow either way and enjoy the time!

Plus your little one only knows how relationships work on a certain level, so take care of your heart for now.

She'sSewPretty said...

You do have a dilemma Rachael. I say listen to your heart. I'm wishing you every happiness!

Stephanie ~ Angelic Accents said...

Hi Sweet Friend! Good to hear you happy and weighing all your options. Sometimes doing NOTHING can be it's own reward. Things usually have a way of working themselves out for the best if you listen to your heart. Just always take care of YOU and that precious little daughter of yours!

Hugs,
Stephanie
Angelic Accents

Celestina Marie said...

Hi Rachael,
Take time to smell the roses and let life lead you through your heart. Give yourself the time to think through your choices. Enjoy your new friendship. Letting go of past history with someone can be hard, but for the best at times. You will know in time if that is what you should do. Don't let anyone take your happiness away. You and princess will be just fine.

Be yourself, don't let anyone define who you are.
Blessings to you sweet friend.
Cheering for you!!
Celestina Marie

Stephenie said...

Rachael, I'm really happy you found someone with the same intrests as you.. You're doing the right thing taking it slow.. I wish you all the luck in the world.. You really do deserve happiness and for someone to treat you like a special lady..
STephenie

Gail McCormack said...

Hi Rachael

I'm so glad to hear you're feeling happy!

I don't envy you making the decision you may have to, but I'm sure you will know what to decide when the time comes - no hurry, you take your time, sounds like the balls in your court.

Enjoy your time with your new male friend!

xx

Reflections from the Stone Nest said...

Blessings to you, dear one. Such hard decisions, especially with the "Little Princess". I'll be praying for you. And, yes, just find something or someone that will allow you to be "happy"....

Kitty

Monica said...

Oh the things we go through only makes us stronger , right?
I agree with all the other girls you deserve to be happy , so take your time and find out exactly WHAT and where that is :)

Muriel said...

Hi Rachael

Do what is the best for you. We all deserve happiness.

I will keep you in my prayers.

Take care

Jillian said...

Helllooooo, Rachel! So glad to see you blogging again. I had stopped awhile back to "visit" but you were not blogging at the time.

Yes, that is quite a dilemma, but hey, enjoy the two men at one time while you are in the moment!

Glad to see you happy and having fun!

I would love to teach myself how to paint roses. You go, girl!

Off to check out your roses books.

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